I will be honest with you, writing posts seems to take quite a while for me. One reason I think I feel this way is that the blogging world is all so new to me and really can be quite intimidating. There are so many amazing blogs out there. I have a full list of blogs I thoroughly enjoy and go to on a daily basis for inspiration.
It may also be due to the fact that I am in the midst of a career change and I have immersed myself into studying Holistic Nutrition with the Canadian School of Natural Nutrition. I teach yoga, I am a wife and a mother. All of which keep me quite occupied. Often too, I find that I seem to come up with what I feel are really great ideas to write about whenever I am without a pen and one of my many notebooks and then of course I forget the “perfect” wording I had crafted in my head. My sweet friend Isabeau @threecupsconsulting and the design talent behind my blog, recently shared with me some great advice. Isabeau told me to stop obsessing and to just sit down and write. So here I am.
I feel that the key ingredients for me to having the confidence to sit down and write are Self Acceptance & Self Compassion. I feel that giving myself the gift of Self Acceptance allows me to practice Self-Compassion which in turn gives me what I need to embrace opportunity and live in the moment while embracing my strengths, accepting my limitations and elegantly setting boundaries. Being kind, loving and sensitive towards ourselves is a necessary daily practice for achieving balance. For me this is realizing that I am not always able to do it all and that’s really ok.
I think we as men and women collectively expect ourselves to be able to keep up to all of the demands placed on us by ourselves, our families and society. For all of us this is dangerously unhealthy. For those of us who may be living with chronic illness or chronic pain it may become even more debilitating as we take on the additional stress that goes with just trying to keep up. Practicing self-care (more on this topic later), by making space in our daily lives for rest and regeneration is not only delightful but a necessary component to practicing Self Acceptance and Self Compassion. For some of us this an entirely new concept that we may even believe is self-indulgent or even selfish. However when we feel rested, restored and yes nourished, we are in a much better place to meet our own expectations as well as those around us. We find ourselves in a place where we are able to set realistic goals and intentions and meet them. The act of accepting what is possible for each one us within our individual circumstances allows us the freedom to feel compassion for ourselves while giving us the space to feel confidence in our daily activities and aspirations.
For me, this is accepting that each day brings a new physical energy that I may not always be completely in control of. With the acceptance of that knowledge I am however able to set realistic expectations while being loving, kind and sensitive towards myself. I am able to embrace each day with renewed strength and determination. I honestly believe that this is not exclusive to those living with chronic pain and illness but to all of us as we move throughout our life. It is an not entirely easy process to accept our individual circumstances, however a necessary one.
Amy Bloom says what I am trying to say beautifully.
“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” Amy Bloom
When I use this quote with my daughters I like to say, “You are perfectly imperfect” because it so perfectly true!
There are definitely a few topics mentioned above that I am looking forward to talking about in the future.
This week I will be scheduling in a little self-care time with a couple of my closest friends as an act of being kind, sensitive and loving towards ourselves in an effort to achieve some balance. We have been discussing the elusive ability to achieve balance throughout our entire friendships. This week we intend on achieving it.
I will also be enjoying some important quality time with my beautiful daughter Brianne and my loving husband.
It is going to be a great week!